Life Mentoring

5 Steps To Building Resilience What is resilience Resilience is our degree of flexibility  - how adaptable we are and how much we can bounce back - recover from setbacks - to a balanced state. Our reaction in the face of difficulties or unexpected circumstances is what exposes how much we let things affect us adversely. Resilience is a skill we can learn, defined by our outlook and response, which enables us to develop it. There are three types of resilience: Psychological resilience - this is our combined mental and emotional resilience. Physical - the resilience of our body Community - the collective resilience. Why do we need resilience? Resilience can be said to be our preparation against overwhelm. If we have resilience we can develop protective mechanisms. This means we are prepared especially for stressful times. We can use it to assist with our creation of balance in our lives. When a situation arises we are able to quickly manage it, adapt, bounce back and then grow ...

  P urpose  and P assion .  Do we need to know ours? What is purpose A purpose gives meaning and a point. It is the reason behind something. To do something on purpose is to do it consciously. We can make a conscious decision to find our purpose.  W hen we are wondering what we are doing, why we are running round and round in circles, or why we are sitting there feeling that life is pointless  we may be having a philosophical moment and wonder what our purpose is .   If we have found our purpose then we have found or made a meaning from our existence. B ecause then there is a point and a focus.  As humans we like to have meaning and we create meaning - purpose is one such meaning.  Do we need to find our purpose Some people believe there is a point and a meaning behind our existence and we must fulfill that in order to maybe justify our existence. On this basis then, if we haven't found the reason behind our existence and fulfilled it, we hav...

Pre-conceived ideas and beliefs - the 5 step process to changing them What is a belief? A belief or pre-conceived idea is a collection of thoughts around a subject, an event, a fact, an opinion . It can become a belief when we have persistent thoughts, or set of thoughts, that we keep thinking. It is not just the thoughts alone - it is the meaning we have given to them. It has been backed up by experiences and often biases to reinforce it. Then it has become a habit. We create preconceived ideas and beliefs in and about almost everything and they can be conscious or sub conscious, so we may not realise it is our view of something. When we come to recognise one of our beliefs (and make them conscious) we may well think it is a recognition of the truth. It is therefore OUR truth; s omething we believe to be true based upon life experiences or our outlook of the world. The belief is the way in which we have experienced life and because we believe it...

3 Strategies to Reform Your  Thoughts What is a thought? Our mind is the most brilliant computer. As you go about your daily routine there is a programme constantly running in the background. Even while you are asleep your brain is busy and creating thoughts.  Our brain takes in and uses information and comes out with results. You are constantly taking in and assessing information, making assumptions and reaching conclusions. Thoughts can be constant - and can take over - until we learn control and direction. Why do we need thoughts? Thoughts are useful for current assessment, problem solving and for planning of the future. Through thoughts we create choices and make things clearer. From our thoughts come emotions. Thoughts can be empowering and create good feelings. Where do thoughts take us? Often the aim of our thoughts is to lead us from A to B. Start with a thought - process it and explore it  - and reach a conclusion. ...

3 Tips to Improving Your Friendships What is Friendship? Friendship is a mutual affection between people. A bond is built and there is trust and respect. It is a stronger and more intimate form of an interpersonal bond than an association, and has been studied in a variety of academic fields such as communication sociology, psychology, anthropology and philosophy. The aim is to have a balance - give and take - whilst remembering that this is subjective. History of Friendship Aristotle said there are three types of friendships: Friendship of Utility, Friendship of Pleasure, and Perfect Friendship. In other words, the purpose of a friendship can be for usefulness, pleasure, or goodness. Friendship of Utility  - This friendship is where people love each other because of something they get which is typically useful or beneficial; the focus is what one gains from the other. In a utility based friendship, friends do not love each other for the sake of love itself, ...

Do you want to conquer your fear What are your fears, that prevent you taking action? Do you want to overcome these fears? Imagine a life without your fear - What would that mean to you? What is a fear A fear is a feeling. You may have many fears or one main fear. These fears prevent us behaving or doing something we would like to do. Here we will look at what a fear really is, what's behind it and how, therefore, you can get past this fear so that it isn't a problem any more. Why is fear a problem It stops us doing something we want to do. So most often it stops us getting what we want. Think of something you want and then think about why you haven't got it or done it. Is there a fear? Does fear actually need to stop us though. Usually it does stop us, the fear is a big hurdle for us. However do note that we can use a fear as a launching platform. When the fear of not doing it becomes greater than the fear of doing it we are propelled into...